THE IMPORTANCE OF SELF-LOVE
With self-knowledge comes self-love. Loving yourself is essential. To love yourself is to accept yourself, to esteem and cherish yourself. Remember that you are that person who will live with you all your life. Who will live with your mind, your emotions, and this body that will carry you. So it’s essential for you to be the person you love the most in this world!
We cannot love ourselves if we demean ourselves, if we don’t respect ourselves. If we say « yes » when our heart says « no », if we focus about what people think about us.
So it’s high time to start to love yourself. You won’t be able to fully love others and be loved as you should if you don’t love you first.
So How do you learn to love yourself? There is no magic recipe again, only tools to adopt as well as awareness.
ACCEPT YOURSELF TO LOVE YOURSELF
Before you can love yourself, you must first accept yourself. Accepting ourself in order to assume, to assert oneself.
We all have flaws, things we don’t like about us and regrets. We must realize that we’re all different, and no one is perfect in this world. It’s up to us to learn to love what we consider to be faulty, and to put forward all our strengths.
Self-acceptance is essential. Accept what cannot be changed. Highlight your assets, your qualities, your skills! We all have assets that other people would love to have, and vice versa.
A person will envy the ability of his office colleague to keep his cool in any situation, while the latter dreams of handling numbers as easily as the former. I
t’s all about point of view. It’s often more difficult to perceive our own qualities in ourselves than in others. Because humans naturally tend to see the negative, rather than the positive. It’s up to you to change the situation;)
How to love myself?
To love yourself is to accept that you aren’t perfect, is to stop comparing or copying yourself with others, but to be inspired by those you admire.
It’s also succeeding in accepting criticism (when they are constructive). It’s knowing How to say « no », to give compliments, to congratulate ourself, to forgive ourself … Finally, it’s also to get into action while setting oneself achievable goals in order to achieve our dream.
Small exercises to apply every day to love yourself more
Make a list of your qualities and talents
It sounds simple to do at first glance, but replace the usual answer to the question: what are your qualities and your faults with: « my qualities and talents, my skills are… ». Listing your strengths will increase your wellbeing a lot. And it will boost your self-confidence.
Write to yourself a self-love letter
Yes yes you read that right! Instead of writing a love letter to your spouse or friend, write it for yourself. Write what you want in it as long as it feels good for you. It’s time to learn to love you and to tell you. Loving others is good, telling them too. But not without loving yourself and knowing it too.
Accept your mistakes and be kind to yourself
We are often too hard on ourselves. Accepting our mistakes and learning from them helps us to love ourselves more. Don’t be too hard on yourself and be positive. Everyone makes mistakes. Turn them into lessons and experiences.
Be kind to yourself 😉