What if I told you that the answer to ANY of life’s inquiries was found within your reply to the question, “What do I want”?

Yes, I’m suggesting that your desires are the ultimate guide to life - any time, and in any situation. Does this seem radical? Were you taught, like I often was, to think about what others want, what you should want, or that wanting itself, was bad? With so many conflicting messages directed at us, it’s easy to understand why identifying what you really want can feel allusive. Are you curious about how following your desires works in real life?

Here’s how desire and the Law of Attraction work. Your desires are the ultimate guide to your life because, as you follow your unique wants, you allow your true self to fully emerge. AND, contrary to what is commonly taught, you become more generous and loving as you live the life you want to live.

Look, don’t just take my word for it, here’s what a few other experts have to say.

If we were standing in your shoes, that would be our dominant quest: Entertaining Yourself, pleasing Yourself, connecting with Yourself, being Yourself, enjoying Yourself, loving Yourself. Some say, “Well, Abraham you teach selfishness. And we say, yes we do,. . .because unless you are selfish enough to reach for that connection, you don’t have anything to give anyone, anyway. And when you are selfish enough to make that connection — you have an enormous gift that you give everywhere you are.
Excerpted from an Abraham-Hicks workshop in San Antonio, TX, April 21st, 2001

Our dreams carry with them the energy for their achievement;
our fears carry with them the energy of our defeat
Michael Neill Genius Catalyst Inc

My friend, there is no reason to be shy or bashful here! Consider the idea that you’re doing “the right thing” when you clarify and act on what you want. This is what having fidelity to your soul is all about.

How would your life shift if you lived according to what you want- as if it couldn’t be any other way?

How would your relationships shift if you were faithful to your own ever expanding self, and welcomed your love’s fidelity to their soul?

Yes, there are layers and nuances to wanting. For example, I may wish I had a body like Martina Navratilova. Underneath that desire though, I may want women to think I’m hot. And, I may really want women to think I’m hot because I want to be loved.

So, if being loved is my core desire, then I don’t really need a body like Martina’s. I become free to nourish feeling loved (and hot) in the body I have. I can work out or not as THAT feels good to me! BUT, can you appreciate that it was my desire for a body like Martina’s that got me to this level of understanding in the first place?

What do you want? What do you want right now, next month, and 5 years from now?

Or, What’s a Girl to do in Days Like These?

Lately, I’ve been writing about thriving after a break up, feeling the economy shift, and thinking about earthquakes. Of course, I’m thrilled to share a perspective on upheaval that can support and inspire you to continue deliberately creating the life you desire.

From a law of attraction perspective, you are always creating your experience through the energy your thoughts exude. In other words, your external life experience is a reflection of your internal thoughts, feelings and beliefs. This creation process is always occurring, and applies to individuals, our country, and our world.

Additionally, there is constant dynamic exchange between your thoughts and your experiences. Sometimes the dissonance between the life you’ve created and who you’ve become results in an energy build up. A significant shift must occur to realign your life. Thus, break ups, earthquakes, and economic shake ups happen in response to a powerful quest for a new equilibrium.

The releasing of built up energy also creates a prime time to assert what is important to you. Isn’t it easy to notice and express “HEY, I don’t want this, I want ______!!!!!” whenever your status quo is disrupted? Your clear desire for stability, opportunity, love, or whatever, summons the universe with power that is potentially equal to how these events are unfolding in your life.

Briefly, here are three steps to inspire you during these wide open times.

1. Believe in, and clarify your desires.
2. Be willing to ride the wave of certainty-yes, you will have what you want, even when you are uncertain how and when you’ll receive your desires. AND
3. Be willing to take inspired action to spin momentum in your direction.

Note: Actually, taking inspired action on a regular basis is a fabulous way to keep your energy flowing smoothly, and preventing pent of energy and emotion.

And, here are six steps to support your inspired action.

1. Tap into what you really want. Ask yourself, “What’s my vision for my life”?
2. Be willing to face your worst fear, AND realize that it is a fear, and has nothing to do with reality.
3. Stay in the present; focusing on the past and/or the future are fuel for your fears. I often use the phrase, “in this moment, all is well” to access relief that is always available in the present moment.
4. Engage your strengths. What do you like about how you’ve dealt with previous moments of upheaval that you can you apply in today’s situation?
5. Take action when you feel clear and relaxed.
6. Most importantly, surround yourself with love, and find time for fun.

Ok, I’m going to keep saying it; these are still the best of days. And, you, my friend are in a perfect spot to conjure the peace, freedom, opportunity, and love that fuel your dreams.

Flourishing with you always,
Judy

PS. Want more? Join other lesbian, bi and queer women in my four week, Thriving After a Break Up tele-class starting Monday, October 6th or contact me about coaching packages.

WHEW! We had a great FREE teleseminar last night! Over 30 women from across the country and Canada joined in the call. Seven women submitted questions that covered a wonderful spectrum of life, from politics, to love, to being out and proud.

I was blessed to have three of my favorite Law of Attraction and LGBT fans on the call with me. As promised, here is their contact information.

Jeannette Maw, the Good Vibe Coach, loves all things LOA, as you’ll find on her revealing “LOA for the Real World” blog (www.goodvibeblog.com) and her coaching home page (www.goodvibecoach.com).

Lise Rubarth, is a creative community builder, technodyke and webmaster extraordinaire. She started Triangle Grrrls (http://trianglegrrrls.com) a few years ago and has just launched Social Girlz (http://socialgirlz.com) a new social networking site for lesbians in the San Francisco bay area.

Karen Olson, a professional counselor living in Tucson, AZ, is passionate about helping people create conscious love in their relationships, AND holistic healing. She recently opened a wellness center, Caritas, (www.caritashealing.com).

I’m getting a little technical help and will have the recording available on this web page for all to enjoy.

Let’s stay in touch! Let me know what resonated with you and any subsequent questions that we stirred up.

with much love,

Judy

Are you feeling happy and completely free to have the love, family and relationships you desire?Are you enjoying your unique sense of love, family, gender and sexuality?

Can you imagine feeling this much joy and freedom all the time?

Enjoying the little, and the large liberating parts of your day is an amazing magnetic act. Remember, the Law of Attraction ensures that the universe brings you more of what ever has your focus and attention.

Now, THIS is my kind of law!

This universal law means that a life full of love, fun, freedom, health and fabulous relationships is yours. You begin attracting your desires the moment you enjoy these qualities as they exist in your life today. Relishing what’s going well multiplies very quickly!!

Can you see how each of us living the life we desire creates a mighty liberation movement?!

This isn’t the established path to political freedom, is it? Usually, we are taught that liberty is a struggle. We are most often directed to focus on what we don’t have or who is against us.

Somewhere we learned that we need something/someone outside ourselves, like institutional laws, to sanction our love and families. Believe me; I do want laws to support me.

I believe we liberate ourselves every time we act with love to create our life as if all the laws in the world support us.  Laws always follow people’s lives.  There are a zillion ways, and a zillion people who are promoting a full range of liberated love and family experiences. I want to extend my many thanks to all those LGBTQ and allied people who intentionally  create their life daily.  Is there anything more powerful than love?

Check out this video from Abraham-Hicks if you want more information about how the law of attraction enhances LGBT Rights.

As many of you know, I was a social worker for 25+ years before becoming a Law of Attraction Coach. I’ve always worked to create room for others to have the life they desire. A very simplified version of my thinking during my social worker years was: “I make the world better by fighting injustice”.

As I’ve integrated Law of Attraction into my way of looking at the world, the message inside my head has changed. Now I say “I influence the world most effectively just by being true to me.” In other words, I’m a revolutionary’s revolutionary just by naturally living true to my spirit. My spirit, like all spirits, wants me to conjure up my perfect world and then welcome it exactly as I desire. Can you imagine making the world a better place just by enjoying your life?!

So, these days, I LOVE inspiring LBQ women to also have the life they desire. What could be more far reaching than thousands of lesbian, bi and queer women happily living their lives, while emphatically knowing that “all is well”?!!!

So, imagine my delight to view a video that was publicly released today about Law of Attraction and LGBT people’s liberation. Check out the powerful new video of Abraham-Hicks speaking about the Law of Attraction and LGBTQ liberation.

Damn! It’s about time!

What are your thoughts and reactions?

THIS is exactly the conversations I can’t wait to have with you! Talk to me here, by email, in my classes or in 1:1 coaching.

Flourish on!

Judy

In the spirit of summer picnics, fun and love, I’ve developed my own little recipe for OOOOH AHHHHH Love. Like any good recipe, try it out, enjoy it often and feel free to make adjustments. This recipe doesn’t care who you love and how long you’ve been loving them! Just love away!

Judy Kinney’s Recipe for OOOOH AHHHHH Love

ENJOY:
feeling good, happy, and joyful
Ah, this ingredient is the foundation for life and for all other ingredients in this recipe. Trust what feels good to you and the other ingredients come to life with such ease.
The Law of Attraction brings you what you vibrate emotionally. Do you want feel good, happy connections with women? I do! Welcome feeling good as your guide for life and love.

what you want AND what you already have.
Heck yeah, life is your own personal candy store. There is no need to pretend you like soy chocolate when Belgium milk chocolate is what really stirs your taste buds. This is true for all aspects of your life, yes?

Being clear about what you like AND thankful for what you have, sends a clear and direct message to the universe. And you know, the universe only knows how to agree with you!

Not sure what you really want? Notice and act on what feels good.

days filled with “I love you”, “thank you”, joy and laughter.
This is my sentimental favorite ingredient. Talk to yourself, your animals, kids, friends, the grocery clerk and say “I love you” and “thank you” a zillion times during the day.
Can you see how these phrases create a fabulously loving energy? WOW, you’ll have the universe zeroing in on you with all sorts of love and kindness!

And laughing? This quote sums it up so well!

I’ve always thought that a big laugh is a really loud noise from the soul saying, “Ain’t that the truth.” ~Quincy Jones

being relaxed and confident about attracting what you desire to your life.
Relaxed and confident about love and dating? Sure! One easy way to step into this idea is to think of a time when you felt truly relaxed and confident. How does this relaxed confidence feel in your body? Now, imagine approaching love and romance with the same feeling. Yep! Just like that!

the process of meeting and getting to know other women.
This ingredient pairs really well with being relaxed and confident. If you know you’re going to have love like you desire, you’re free to enjoy meeting women. You will meet them online, at potlucks, a dance, the dog park or a gathering of friends. Who cares where you meet when you enjoy the process!

a range of relationships in your life- friends, lovers, day to day partners and any combination of these.
Meeting women under the guise of finding “the one” is stressful. And stress is just going to attract more stress, right? Is there a difference in your energy if your goal was to have a full and fabulous range of genuine relationships? Often we start off as one sort of relationship and often end up as another, right?

Last, but not least, enjoy
your life and engage with people who also love their life.
Look around, my friends, you’re smack dab in the middle of the best part! Whether it’s local or long distance friends, books, ezines, or classes, surround yourself with people who will support your dreams and have fabulous dreams of their own.

Ready to dig in?

Mix all ingredients together, in any order. Stir when ever the mood feels right. Eat with a spoon, a fork, your hand or pick up the bowl and slurp. Share with others.

Above all, ENJOY!!!

Ok, my epicurean, foodie, love pals. .. tell me how this recipe for oooh aaah love stirs YOUR taste buds!

Bon appetite!