I’m one of “those people” that walks directly to the edge of a cliff and looks over. I’m curious about what is on the other side and I love the intimate feeling I experience being in that spot where the ground below me meets so much air. Whew!

I must confess that even as I’m drawn to the edge, the messages in my head often tell me otherwise. Over the years, I’ve let messages telling me to play it safe, question whether I’m missing something that is obvious to everyone else, or not to be a show off seep into my mind. These thoughts make me doubt what I’m truly compelled to do. Fortunately, 9.9 out of 10 times, I still find my way out to that special spot on the edge. But if I pay too much attention to those thrill squashing thoughts in my head I don’t fully enjoy the thrill of being on a small piece of earth,  completely surrounded by air.

The whole idea of my relationship with “the edge” resurfaced recently. I was in Sedona, AZ for an Abraham-Hicks,  Art of Allowing workshop when I first heard the phrase “the leading edge”.  This phrase grabbed my attention and I immediately sat up.

The leading edge, as I understand from Abraham-Hicks, is our soul’s natural response to our ever-expanding desires. As we live and notice what we like and want, our personal edge expands towards this new vision of ourselves. We are born to expand into our desires and dreams. Yeah baby! The Art of Allowing happens when we let our thoughts align with our soul’s new leading edge. You feel good when you align with this expanded vision of yourself. It’s that simple.

Who needs a cliff to experience the thrills, questions or fears of being on the edge? Heck, life itself takes me to the edge all the time!  You would not believe how often I try to trick myself into playing it safe. On the way to my leading edge, I sometimes  trip over out dated and familiar thoughts that question the direction I’m taking. When I listen to these messages, I end up feeling frustrated, confused and way, way too uncomfortable!  Thankfully, a kiss of a breeze against my face is all it takes to remind me of my love affair with my edge and I head to back to a that sweet aligned spot of y desires.

What about you? Where’s your leading edge? What thoughts and habits carry your forward, into your best, ever evolving fine self? What thoughts and habits keep you away, and presumably safe from your own leading edge?  Most importantly, which will you listen to today?  I hope you’ll join me on the edge;  I’ll be waiting there for you.

You know that ooooh ahhhh feeling. It’s that electric charge you experience when you connect with someone you really like or love. Often it’s easiest to tap into this current with someone new because we’re completely focused on what we like about each other. We can get the ooooh ahhhhs with someone we’ve been with for a long while when we allow our attention to be fully on what we really like and love about them. You’ve experienced the ooooh ahhhhs, right? I love this feeling. Really, I LOVE the ooooh ahhhhs, and I imagine that you do too. I want to share with you how I’ve learned to access a wider and deeper ooooh ahhhh experience whenever I desire so that you can do the same.

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I have the best conversations with other women about dating, romance, and relationships! This past week, Carrie was telling me she’s checking out what baggage she brings to a relationship, and right now isn’t so sure that she’s interested in dating.  All the baggage women bring with them to dating and relationships can be just too overwhelming. As I let ideas about entering and staying in relationships roll around in my head over the next couple of days, the idea of our personal “baggage” became a great analogy for me.

Then, my best pal Linda came for a visit. We love that we’re willing to sort through the best and the worst of life together. I wanted to run my ideas about dating, relationships and this new baggage analogy by her. I told her that my baggage image often works like this. I see someone I like, leap wildly in her direction to get her attention.  Instead of meeting her as the suave person I am in my mind, I can trip over a range of silly beliefs limiting my true self.  As if tripping over baggage lying on the ground in front of me, I land flat on my face.

Linda told me she has enjoyed noticing how well she’s mastered her baggage-as if it were a ball she twirls easily on one finger. Then, without warning that easily spinning ball becomes a huge boulder crushing down on her until she is unable to breath or move. After considerable laughing and crying at ourselves, I realized that our souls know that the baggage is truly irrelevant.

My soul understands that the baggage between me and someone that I want to connect with is really nothing to trip over. Of course my soul wants to leap wildly toward someone that’s attracted my attention.  Connecting genuinely with others is one of the most basic aspects of our lives.

And, what about that crushing baggage my pal Linda is dealing with? Truly, her soul can handle her past as deftly as a WNBA player handles a basketball. Our minds, bless them, want us to believe that our past is huge and inescapable, sitting idly by ready to trip us or smash us whenever a chance arises. This is just not true.  Consider that any piece of baggage we haul around with us is merely a set of beliefs we’ve gathered from our past.   If our baggage is only outdated beliefs about ourselves, we get to decide if those beliefs have any benefit to us in the present.

I don’t know about you, but I find my soul’s perspective so much more attractive. I can trash that false belief that I need to DO SOMETHING to demonstrate how special I am. Maybe I’ll keep my wild leaps, but they will be the greeting of a liverated soul now, no longer held down by insecurities.  And Linda gets to be proud of her deft baggage handling and decide what she wants to do with her past. Maybe, like Carrie, each of us can look at what’s in our baggage and decide what to keep and what to pack up for the second hand store.

What about you? Are you ready to lighten your load? What image comes to mind when you think about your dating/relationship baggage? What is your soul trying to remind you? What experiences from your past are gifts that you want to keep, and which ones are you ready to trash or pack up for the second hand store?