I’ve been breaking money rules I didn’t know I had…until I started breaking them.

I started talking really honestly and openly about money with friends, colleagues and family. I’ve shared thoughts that I formerly kept to myself about money: what I make, don’t create, want, worry about, enjoy, celebrate, and for that which I’m truly grateful.

Like sex, talking super honestly, easily and freely about your money seems largely taboo or like strolling through a field full of land mines. Exploring topics like money and sex makes it easy to see how misinformation and oppressive beliefs thrive along side secrets.

While each of us is free to decide the level of intimacy (truth telling and sharing) we want in our relationships, I wonder how much pressure you’re placing on yourself or others if that inner circle is just you or one other person?  Look around, and consider adding more people to your inner circle of trust.  You can begin with a conversation or two.

Honestly, the decisions you make to share or not to share about money are less important than the beliefs that inform those decisions. Your underlying beliefs carry the energy that creates your money reality. Our money culture and training fosters a host of  ”shoulds” and shame that are contrary to our innate goodness.  These beliefs are what block our easy and natural money flow.

Here are a few questions that can shine a light on the money rules operating in your life.  Keep the practices that feel good in your heart.  Reconsider those practices that feel constraining. For each of these questions, I’ve found it interesting to consider which conversations you have with family, friends, colleagues, community, or paid experts (AKA your coach!).

• With whom are you COMPLETELY honest about your money. Who knows how much and on what you spend, earn, or save?
• When, and with whom does talking about your money feel free and easy or challenging? In which of these conversations are you
• speaking mostly from your heart or your mind?
• When would you ask for financial help? Who would you ask?
• How does your perspective shift when you insert the word relationship, health, or career for the word money in the questions above?

Given your answers to these questions, what might be some of your unwritten money talk rules?

How would your money rules shift if you knew that you were absolutely good and fine?

What’s one unwritten money rule you’d like to break today?

Please consider this a free and easy place to talk about money. Your answers or experiences are welcome here!