Michael Neill was telling me about 3 Kinds of Confidence yesterday.

The first kind of confidence is a confident facade.  This is the “fake it to you make it” kind of confidence that can be helpful in certain situations.  Sometimes it’s a relief to lean on a facade, but you can’t rely on it to sustain you.

The second kind of confidence is solid, but is based on something that isn’t solid.  For example, being confident because you have a fabulous job, sexy honey, or the ability to hit a baseball out of the park.  You can lose these things today, and your confidence goes with them.

The third kind of confidence is that of a baby’s.  Michael is fond of saying, “babies don’t need a self help group.” Babies just are, and as they teach us that confidence is innate.  Babies want what they want, cry, struggle, play,and try without any self reflection. A baby won’t internalize being a BAD baby, or not as good as the baby beside them, because they fall down when they are learning to walk.  Instead, they just try again, or not.

These three approaches to confidence become a useful lens for looking at other innate qualities, like happiness, and love.

I admit it.  I’m thankful I’ve tapped into a love and happiness facade in moments when I was transitioning from feeling pathetic to being genuinely loved and happy. I’m glad I could blend into a looking good persona on my way to fully settling into being happy and loved.

I believe we know, on some level, that being happy, confident and loved is our birthright.  But we learned that we need to go get happy, or get loved.

What if there’s never a thing you need to do, think, or have to be confident, loved and happy?

Jeannette Maw’s The Art of Self Love is an AMAZING resource  that brings home the basic truth that, when you love yourself fully, happiness, confidence, and sense of abundance follow as a matter of course.

I think we’re in an era where we’re impatient with faking it, or having to work to have what already exists.

Heck yeah, I want to enjoy a nice home and a sexy honey!  I want them because I like them, and for no other reason.

What a relief it is to carry my happiness, confidence and self love with me where ever I go, and what ever I experience.

What a relief it is to want what I want because I enjoy it!

Whew, what a relief!

Think about it.  How would you approach your day, your relationships, or your goals today if you allowed your inner confident, happy and lovable baby to emerge?

In case you want to explore this topic more, I’ll be doing  just that, live and free, Monday, March 9th,  Living in the Eye of a Storm.